Rapper and activist Ruggedman has opened up about his decision to remain unmarried and not have children, attributing it to a vow he made in his youth never to have a child out of wedlock.
In a recent interview on TVC’s Your View, the 51-year-old artist admitted to moments of doubt about whether his decision was right or wrong. However, he emphasized the importance of finding the right partner and building a strong relationship.
Reflecting on past relationships, Ruggedman shared that he had encountered situations where things didn’t work out, including one instance where a wealthy suitor intervened and separated him from his partner.
“When I was younger, I vowed never to have a child out of wedlock. Sometimes, I wonder if I made the right or wrong decision. But at the end of the day, marriage and parenting require commitment from both partners. You have to do it with someone you truly love,” he said.
“I have met women I thought I would settle down with, but things didn’t go as planned. There was one woman I was supposed to marry, but her mother separated us after a wealthy man entered the picture.”
During the interview, Ruggedman also revealed that he once ended a relationship after his partner pushed him in public during a disagreement. He stressed that provocations leading to domestic violence should be considered a valid reason to leave a relationship.
“I always tell any woman I intend to date that if she ever pushes me to the point where I even think of hitting her, the relationship is over. I say this because when I choose to be with someone, I make sure she knows my triggers. So if you intentionally push those boundaries, it means you are provoking me. Instead of reacting, I would rather walk away.”
“I once broke up with a woman because she pushed me in public while we were having an argument. I had asked her to wait until we got home to discuss the issue, but she didn’t listen. That was a red flag for me.”
He further stated that many people in abusive relationships ignore early warning signs because of personal benefits or fear of public opinion. However, he advised that leaving an unhealthy relationship is always the better option.
“A lot of people in abusive relationships saw the red flags but stayed because they were benefiting from the relationship or were afraid of what others would say. But if you die in an abusive relationship, the same people you were worried about will still talk. It’s better to walk away while you can.”
By Ezinne Okorie.
