The debate over “traditional vs. excessive” respect has taken center stage in Nollywood as Toyin Abraham recently addressed the backlash regarding her public greeting of billionaire couple Alhaji Rasaq and Shade Okoya.
The controversy began following a viral video from the 70th birthday celebration of former Ogun State Governor, Otunba Gbenga Daniel, where the actress was seen going down on both knees to greet the dignitaries.
The Criticism: “Eye Service” or Humility?
Social media users, led by a viral post from an X user named Lady Victoria, questioned the necessity of the gesture:
- The “Packaging” Argument: Critics argued that as a woman of high status and a major filmmaker, Toyin should “carry herself with more grace,” suggesting that full kneeling makes her appear to “belittle herself.”
- Age Proximity: Some pointed out that Shade Okoya is not significantly older than Toyin, arguing that a respectful bow would have sufficed instead of kneeling on both knees.
- Political Undertones: Some critics even linked the behavior to her past political affiliations, suggesting the display was an attempt at “eye service” to remain in favor with the elite.
Toyin’s “Omoluabi” Defense
Unmoved by the commentary, Toyin Abraham took to X to double down on her actions, framing them as a non-negotiable part of her identity:
- Cultural Blueprint: She described herself as a true “Omoluabi” (a person of character and good upbringing), stating that she was raised to kneel for those who value and deserve respect.
- Status is Irrelevant: The actress clarified that her respect is not about social standing but about her personal values. “I will continue to go on my both knees to greet people who value and deserve it no matter the status,” she wrote.
- Preserving Heritage: In a follow-up statement, she expressed concern that basic traditions are now being labeled as “abosi” (hypocrisy). She vowed to remain intentional about passing these Yoruba values down to the younger generation
